3cubed

Tuesday, March 18, 2003

 
My most recent dilemma is whether or not to let Maggie spend the day with Bobby on Friday. The last time she spent the day with him, he slept all day & let her run around his apartment unsupervised and she colored he whole body with blue marker & came home looking like a smurf. However that time I told him he had to watch her because she was running a fever and I had to work, this time he is asking for her because he wants to spend time with her. I think it's important for her to spend time with her dad and don't want to be the one standing in the way of that, but I also want to feel secure that she will be okay and taken care of.

My therapist suggested I supervise their visits, but honestly I just don't think I can tolerate him for any period of time. Over the past year he has requested several times to go with us when I take her to a movie or asked if we could all go to the park for the afternoon, but I always say no. He says he thinks it's important for us to spend time together as a family and for her to see him & I getting along instead of the arguements she has witnessed in the past. But that's exactly what I'm afraid of, I can't spend more than an hour with him before he picks a fight with me & everything blows up. Also I think it would be confusing for her to see her dad & I together. It might perpetuate the fantasy that all children whose parents are not togehter have of their parents getting back together. That is something which is definately NOT going to happen.
Tina 12:49 PM