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Monday, November 22, 2004

 
Movie quote of the day:
Veronica Sawyer: Heather, why can't you just be a friend? Why do you have to be such a mega-bitch?
Heather Duke: Because I can be.
--Heathers

Song of the day:
Elton John - The Bitch is Back

I am so irritated right now. Why do girls have to be such bitches? I went to a sneak preview of Alexander earlier (which wasn't that good, wait for the DVD) and when I got home I had two emails from Will. Wait, I should probably backtrack for just a minute. Will sent me an email on Thursday inviting Maggie to William's (his son's) birthday party in a couple weeks. I replied that we would be there. Then he called me on Saturday wanting to know if my sister was coming home for Thanksgiving because he wanted to give her an old lamp that he didn't need anymore. When we visited her in Orlando last month he noticed that she needed a lamp. I told him she was & he said he would come by sometime this week and drop it off. I said ok and bye. I didn't make any chit chat or anything, trying to maintain my distance and all, even though I thought that was a really lame excuse to call & suspected he just wanted to talk to me.

Ok so back to the present. The first email I got from him said that his aunt invited his new girlfriend (they are best friends) who from now forward shall be referred to as "Fat-ass", to the birthday party. He didn't think she should come because he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. His aunt said that I am an adult & should be able to handle the situation for the sake of the kids. Fat-ass said that she wanted to go, but understood if I didn't want her there & if not then she wouldn't go (an obvious attempt to make me look like the bad-guy). He said so it was up to me whether or not Fat-ass was going & that he would rather have me there than her because it was William's party & he wanted him to have fun. He second email said to nevermind that Fat-ass just said that she wouldn't go (an obvious attempt to appear as the accommodating gracious one), and that his mom was mad at him about it (his mom likes me), & that he didn't understand why his aunt invited Fat-ass in the first place when she knew it would cause problems, and what is wrong with women and why are they such bitches & blah, blah, blah.

So I called him and explained to him exactly why his aunt invited Fat-ass. This is basically what I told him. Oh wait a little bit more history: I've met his aunt, hung out at her house, drank with her, played board & card games, gave her massage (just spotwork on her shoulders), and pretty much liked her, she has never been anything but nice to me. I agreed that yes women can be bitches, probably why I have more guy friends than girl friends, and that even if we had never had sex and I didn't have feelings for him, and our relationship had been nothing more than friends, strictly platonic, Fat-ass would STILL be jealous of me. Because that is the nature of women. If we had continued to hang out, she would get mad everytime he spent time with me. And it would cause friction and eventually he would have had to choose between us. Another reason why I chose to end our friendship, I could see this coming.

So we have coming up, the birthday party, the first time he & I are to hang out together since he started dating her. She is feeling insecure about it, tells her best friend who happens to be his aunt, and her solution is to invite Fat-ass along so that Will & I would not have an opportunity to hang out alone. As if we would be alone at a 5 year old's birthday party anyway. He said his aunt got real defensive about it when he confronted her saying, "Well she's my friend & I can invite her if I want." He also said that when he mentioned to her & Fat-ass that he would be stopping by my house to drop off the lamp, his aunt got all pissy about that too, saying "Why do you have to go over there? Why can't her sister come get it from you?" These women obviously do not want him around me. So am I right here people? Especially considering that before he started dating her friend, his aunt liked me just fine.

He was really aggravated with the whole situation & said that he got in a fight with both his aunt and Fat-ass about it. So I said that it was Maggie that William wanted there, not me, so if it would make things easier, I could just drop Maggie off at the party or have my mom take her instead of me. And he said no that those bitches needed to learn their place. So I was like, do you see now why we couldn't remain friends? This is just your son's birthday party, can you imagine what it would be like if just you and I were going to hang out? We would be going through this bullshit everytime we wanted to do something. And he said that his aunt thinks that he has feelings for me and that he's going to realize it and then dump her friend for me. He then said that actually every female that knows both of us thinks that he has feelings for me that he's not acknowledging, and they also think that I think the same thing. I replied that I do. He said but why do I think that when he's told me that he doesn't? My reply: Because I'm fucking fabulous that's why. How could you not? He laughed and said that yes I was indeed quite fabulous but he just doesn't feel it. So I said yeah whatever. Then I told him my theory on the subject. Based on what he's told me about his past girlfriends, they have all been dumb, insecure and needy. He has never dated anyone who is his equal because he likes feeling superior. He agreed about the past girlfriends but not about being afraid to date his equal. He countered with if that were true why would he even want to be friends with me? I said because a friend and a girlfriend are two different things. Then we transitioned into conversation about regular stuff and what's been going on with school and whatever. When we said bye, he said "Why don't you call me sometime or something?" I laughed and said, "Why so we can go through this drama on a regular basis?" So he said, "Yeah maybe not."

So my very mixed feelings are: I am even more confident that I made the right decision in ending our friendship because I really do not need this stupid girl drama in my life right now. And why is his aunt being such a bitch to me? I could see if I were trying to cause problems between him & Fat-ass, but I did the exact opposite and removed myself from the situation so as NOT to cause problems. And don't think for one minute that the bitch inside of me doesn't want to do just that, if nothing else than just to spite those bitches for trying to fuck with me. And it would be so easy for me to do. Will said he missed me. He told Fat-ass from the get-go not to interfere in his friendship with me. If all this is happening just over a freaking birthday party imagine how she'd take him telling her that I was coming over to watch a movie (which is done in his bed since he lives with his parents) or that we were going out drinking, or taking off for another weekend in Orlando at my sisters. I want to do it SO BAD! Why do I have to be the one to take the high road? I want to be a bitch and cause her to feel as shitty as I do. But mostly I just feel sad, because truthfully, I miss my friend.

Tina 1:05 AM